Taking Off Your Armour At The End of The Day
Do you sometimes finish your day with that busy, racy feeling inside of you and find it hard to shake it?
Do you struggle to sit down and be present with your kids, friends, or your partner at the end of the night - because you’re still thinking about work?
Does it feel hard for you to let go of the day that’s been and drop into ‘home mode’?
If you answered yes to any of these things - you are so not alone.
When you’re ambitious, when your job requires you to work at a high level, or there’s just a lot going on in the day - whether that be taking care of your kids or other responsibilities, it can be really hard to shake off that busy energy.
I call this the “armour” that we often wear.
Imagine wandering around your house or coming home at the end of the day with this clunky armour on. It’s hard to move about, it’s hard to sit down and be still, it makes it hard to fully connect with the people and relationships that are important to us.
Here’s what creates this armour: Unprocessed emotion or emotional stress from the day or week.
Let’s paint the picture of your day —— those tasks, responsibilities, obligations, the pressure you feel will generate feelings in you, these could be feelings of doubt, worry, stress, overwhelm, pressure, anxiety etc.
When you’re a human being walking around, going about your day and also working at a fast pace or a high level, it’s to be expected that your body and mind is going to have a response to that, we don’t get out of that unscathed.
I think for a lot of us, its easy to identify this as stress. But I always ask people to get curious about the feeling of stress.
Stress is what I call a surface symptom.
It’s easy to access and identify within ourselves but it doesn’t give us the full picture.
There’s normally something sitting underneath stress - a thought about yourself or other people or a deeper feeling that is driving the stress you’re feeling.
For example: You have a difficult meeting with a colleague or someone on your team at work.
After the meeting is over, you can tell you feel racy and stressed for the rest of the day.
You want to ask yourself - what’s sitting underneath that stress?
It could be a feeling of doubt - doubting whether you’re doing enough for your team or this person, feeling like you’re not good enough thats why they challenged you, it could be anger or resentment towards them or something else.
Knowing what’s really driving that stressy feeling is important - because then we work with that underlying feeling or emotion and shift it.
We can’t shift what we don’t acknowledge.
Just acknowledging that we are stressed, doesn’t really get us to what we need to process and let that feeling go.
So the next time you feel like you’re stressed - get curious about what’s sitting underneath that, because that’s where your gold is.
“Oh I can see what this is really about is I don’t feel good enough when compared to them.”
or “I feel like I have to prove myself because I’m new in this role.”
If you can identify the underlying thought or belief that’s driving your experience of stress - then you can actually work with the source and release it .
I’ll link in here with the 4 Step Process To Release Emotional Stress course - in there I lay out 4 quick, simple steps that you could use in situations like this (you could even pop into the bathroom at work and do this in like 5 minutes). That will help you clear the stress and the underlying feeling, so you can just get on with your day feeling much lighter and more at ease.
The 4 Step Process To Release Emotional Stress.
Releasing emotional stress is THE way to remove the armour at the end of the day.
The 4 Step Process is a simple process that I’ve created that shows you the ‘how’ or the ‘way’ to come out of overdrive and find a deep sense of groundedness, peace and safety in your daily life.
This 4 step process is so simple to learn. The course can be completed in about 1 or 2 sittings.
