How To Set Yourself Up For A Successful & Fulfilling Year
As we approach the beginning of a brand new year, there’s plenty of discussion about resolutions and goals. I’m here to share 3 of the biggest challenges that prevent many of us from realising our dreams and how to overcome these, so you can set yourself up for a successful and fulfilling 2019.
Challenge #1. Deciding What’s Possible For You Based On Your Current Reality
If there’s something you really want to change in your life, don’t look at your current reality and use that as a reference point of what’s possible in the future. Otherwise you are only ever going to get more of what you already have. You will never create your dream life by resigning to your current reality.
Decide today that change is possible for you and shift your focus from where you are to where you’re heading.
Challenge #2: Goal Shame
Many women suffer from “goal shame” and feel as though their goals and dreams are not worthy or good enough when compared to others. A common misunderstanding is that unless our goals are the BIGGEST AND BEST, they are not worth going for.
Approaching life from this perspective means we can end up pursuing a path that feels out of alignment with who we really are, and one that’s based on someone else’s version of success.
In my experience, the biggest barrier to making our dreams a reality is not the external things (because let’s be honest if it’s that important we will find a way around obstacles). More often than not, the biggest barrier to our dreams is us – our own fears, doubts and insecurities.
The real challenge is not to “find” or “discover” what we are truly passionate about, but to give ourselves permission to pursue, deep down what we know is meant for us, even if other people don’t agree or understand.
If you’re unsure on what your goals are, ask yourself: If you didn’t care what others might say, what would you be doing?
(It’s usually the first thing that pops into your head!)
You’ll never find true fulfillment from pursuing someone else’s version of success. Give yourself the best gift in 2019 by unapologetically claiming what YOU truly desire and don’t settle for anything less.
Challenge #3: Getting Caught Up In “How” You Will Make It Happen
As soon as we decide on a goal to work towards our mind goes into overdrive furiously trying to work out “how” we will make it happen. It feels paralysing to search for all of the steps and the right actions to take. I see so many women stuck at step 1 because they can’t move forward until they have complete clarity on all of the steps along the way.
You can’t wait until you know exactly how you’re going to achieve your biggest desires and dreams, otherwise you’ll always be waiting.
Marie Forleo says “Clarity comes through action not thought.” As you step out and start taking action, you will gain clarity on all of the steps that lie ahead. You only need to look at your past experiences to know this is true.