How To Live A More Joyful Life
A few years ago, there was a study done on New Years resolutions. The top New Years Resolution wasn’t, “I want to make more money” or “I want to lose weight.”.
In fact, what people were most wanting to achieve in the year ahead was discovering how to live a more joyful life.
Take a moment and think about how you are living your life. Are you happy? Are there any changes that you want to make? What are you really craving from life?
If you’re in a place where life feels stagnant and things aren’t working out, take these 3 steps to shift your focus and get on track to the joy, happiness & fulfillment you desire this year.
Stop projecting into the future
We often feel like a new relationship, losing weight, a new job or making more money will give us the happiness that we crave, but it will never come from the achievement of outside things. It has to come from within.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m an advocate for creating a BIG vision for your life, but your future goals can’t be the only place you’re going to find happiness. Projecting your happiness into the future means the joy you’re seeking will always be in a place that you’re not. No matter how good things get in your life, you’ll always be chasing the next idea, the next new goal or achievement, the next amount of money.
Instead, you’ve got to make a conscious choice to enjoy your life now. When you make this switch, you’ll discover a deep sense of fulfillment and connection to your life and be able to enjoy the journey to all those things you desire.
The pathway to joy is through gratitude
“Joy is not a constant. It comes to us in moments – often ordinary moments. Sometimes we miss out on the bursts of joy, because we’re too busy chasing down the extraordinary moments. – Brene Brown
There is no joy in our lives without gratitude. We’ve all heard about the importance of a gratitude practice. But we often “put off” being grateful because as Brene Brown says, we’re waiting for those big, extraordinary moments to occur to stop and and appreciate our lives.
But your life can’t just exist in the extraordinary moments. In fact, most of our lives are made up of everyday moments. If you add up the seemingly mundane, everyday moments and you’re not present for them, you may end up missing out on some of the most beautiful & important moments of your life.
There is good everywhere in your life, even in this moment and even if you are facing challenges. The questions is: are you open to recognising and experiencing it?
If you feel the pressure to be further ahead and it’s limiting the joy you experience in your life, stop and ask yourself:
Where did I start?
Where am I now? What’s good about that?
What do I have now that once I used to wish for?
What am I learning?
Create it now
When you take time to consider why you want your goals, you’ll find it’s actually for the emotional experience you hope you will get from them. More than likely, you want the feeling of fun, fulfillment, happiness and freedom that will come through having or achieving your goals. The “form” that our goals actually doesn’t matter.
Ask yourself: If I achieved my goals how would I expect to be feeling? The next step is important; start creating experiences that allow you to feel that way now.
Do you want to travel so you can experience more adventure in your life? Consider how you could give that to yourself now through local adventures in your own city. Do you want more love in your life from a special relationship? Start caring for yourself in a loving way. Are you craving a change or challenge at work? Take control of your own learning. Start reading. Take an online or local class in your community.
You don’t need to wait to feel good. Start creating experiences that allow you to feel the way your goals would, now.
When you do you’ll realise that a lot of what you want is already here and that is TRUE freedom.
There’s a saying that when you get to seventy years old you won’t have lived seventy years, you would have lived one year, seventy times. Don’t let that be you. If you’re in a place where life is feeling stagnant, you have an opportunity to take back control of your life. Happiness & joy is available to you now.